The importance of being encouraging

We almost cried after reading this amazingly touching article on how a mom encouraged her child through school, and we had to translate it into English for our readers. Being a mother is the hardest and most rewarding job in the world! Tell us how you encourage your kids in the comments!

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At a mum’s first Parent-Teacher session, her son’s Kindergarten teacher said, “He has ADHD and can’t sit still for more than 3 minutes. You should bring him for a medical test.”

On the way ho

me, he asked her asked her what the teacher said. She nearly started crying – in a class of 30 children, his performance was the worst. The teacher only appeared unhappy with him.

However, she told her son, “Your teacher complimented you. She said previously you could only sit still for less than one minute, but you can now sit for three minutes. All the other mums are envious of me because in the entire class, only you showed improvement.”

That night, for the first time, her son ate two bowls of rice, and didn’t need her to feed him.

Her son entered primary school. At the PTA session the teacher said, “Out of a class of 50 students, your son was ranked 40th in his mathematics test. We suspect he has a learning disability, and you should bring him for a medical test.”

On the way back home, she started crying. However, when she reached home, she sat in front of her son and told him, “The teacher has full confidence in you. He said that you are not a stupid child, and as long as you are more careful, you will definitely surpass the kid who sit on the same table as you. He was ranked 21st in the Math test.”

As she said this, she realised that her son’s dim eyes suddenly lit up, and his disheartened face also perked up. She was also surprised to realise that her son became more docile, and seemed to mature greatly. 

The next day, he left for school earlier than usual.

When her son entered secondary school, she attended another PTA session. She sat by her son’s seat, waiting for the teacher to call her son’s name. After all, during all the previous session, her son had always been classified under the weaker students section.

To her surprise, her son’s name wasn’t called during the meeting. Taken aback, she talked to the teacher as she left, who told her, “Based on your son’s current results, it might be risky to apply for the top junior colleges.”

She walked out of the school gates pleasantly surprised, and saw her son waiting for her. As she leaned on her son’s shoulder on the journey back, she experienced an indescribable sweetness welling inside her. She said to him, “Your form teacher is very pleased with you. He said that as long as you work hard, you have a good chance of entering the top junior colleges.”

Her son eventually graduated from junior college.

As the first batch of university acceptance letters were being issued, her son’s school called to ask him to go to the school. She had a hunch that her son had been accepted by Tsing Hua University [a top engineering university that is very difficult to gain acceptance into].

This was because when he was taking the university entrance exam, she told her son that she believed he could successfully enter this university.

Her son came back from his school, holding a couriered letter from Tsing Hua University’s Admission Office. He suddenly turned, ran into his room, and started crying. As he cried, he said, “Mum, I know I’m not a smart child, but in this whole world, only you can appreciate me…”

At this point, she felt both a sense of bittersweetness, and could no longer control the tears in her heart that had coalesced over the last ten over years. Her tears fell onto the letter in her hand.

A word of encouragement can change a person’s thinking and behaviour, and can even change a person’s life!

A word of criticism can harm a person’s mind and body, and can even destroy a person’s future!

第一次參加家長會,幼兒園的老師說:「你的兒子有多動症,在板凳上連三分鐘都座不了,你最好帶他去醫院看一看。」

回家的路上,兒子問她老師都說了些什麼,她鼻子一酸,差點流下淚來。

因為全班30位小朋友,惟有他表現最差;惟有對他,老師表現出不屑。

然而她還是告訴她的兒子:「老師表揚你了,說寶寶原來在板凳上坐不了一分鐘,現在能坐三分鐘了,其他的媽媽都非常羨慕媽媽,因為全班只有寶寶進步了。」

那天晚上,她兒子破天荒吃了兩碗米飯,並且沒讓她餵。

兒子上小學了。

家長會上,老師說:「全班50名同學,這次數學考試,你兒子排第40名,我們懷疑他智力上有些障礙,您最好能帶他去醫院查一查。」

回去的路上,她流下了淚。然而,當她回到家裡,卻對坐在桌前的兒子說:「老師對你充滿信心。他說了,你並不是個笨孩子,只要能細心些,會超過你的同桌,這次你的同桌排在21名。」

說這話時,她發現,兒子黯淡的眼神一下子充滿了光,沮喪的臉也一下子舒展開來。

她甚至發現,兒子溫順得讓她吃驚,好像長大了許多。

第二天上學時,去得比平時都要早。

孩子上了初中,又一次家長會。

她坐在兒子的座位上,等著老師點她兒子的名字,因為每次家長會,她兒子的名字在差生的行列中總是被點到。

然而,這次卻出乎她的預料,直到結束,都沒聽到。

她有些不習慣。臨別,去問老師,老師告訴她:「按你兒子現在的成績,考重點高中有點危險。」

她懷著驚喜的心情走出校門,此時她發現兒子在等她。

路上她扶著兒子的肩,心裡有一種說不出的甜蜜,她告訴兒子:「班主任對你非常滿意,他說了,只要你努力,很有希望考上重點高中。」

高中畢業了。

第一批大學錄取通知書下達時,學校打電話讓她兒子到學校去一趟。

她有一種預感,她兒子被清華錄取了,

因為在報考時,她給兒子說過,她相信他能考取這所學校。

他兒子從學校回來,把一封印有清華大學招生辦公室的特快專遞交到她的手,突然轉身跑到自己的房間裡大哭起來。

邊哭邊說:「媽媽,我知道我不是個聰明的孩子,可是,這個世界上只有你能欣賞我……」

這時,她悲喜交加,再也按捺不住十幾年來凝聚在心中的淚水,任它打在手中的信封上。

一句鼓勵的話 可改變一個人的觀念與行為 甚至改變一個人的命運!

一句負面的話 可刺傷一個人的心靈與身體 甚至毀滅一個人的未來!

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